A Longtime Israeli-Palestinian Friendship Falls Apart
Eight years ago, we introduced two unlikely friends: an Israeli and a Palestinian-- who once believed peace could override enemy lines. Dana Levy and Mohammed Saqar met in the late 1990s, as teenagers at a Seeds of Peace summer camp in the U.S.
Both had lost family in the region's conflicts, but they became friends and kept in touch by phone.
We caught up with both of them. But not together. We should tell you, this is a missed connection we could not reconnect.
As Mohammed told us back in 2010, their friendship at the time had outlasted their idealism:
"When I was young, I started to think, OK, when I grow up and become 25 or 26 or 30, I'm becoming a leader here, she is becoming a leader there, then we can marry, you know, so we can produce new people," he said.
A younger Dana acknowledged that to preserve their friendship, she and Mohammed couldn't discuss their beliefs:
"We wouldn't be able to be friends if we talked about politics. How can you be friends with your enemy?" she asked. "Because we are supposed to hate each other, you know? But we don't, so we are just friends."
That friendship though has not endured the test of time and war. She continues to live in Tel Aviv and he's still in Gaza.
"So much has changed actually," Dana told us recently.
When we first talked to Dana, she'd been single and managing a salsa club. Since then, she says she's made the "big jump up" to working as a production manager at a tech company creating motion graphic animation videos for Fortune 500 companies in the U.S.
Her family has grown too. "I met my partner, and we have a 2 1/2-year-old little redhead and now expecting our second child," she says.
Dana says she can't remember the last time she spoke with Mohammed. "It's been quite a while since I've heard from him," she says.
But she thinks about him a lot, especially during the cyclical outbreaks of violence.
"We talk about him a lot in my family. He had a very special relationship with my father who's actually more conservative. So they would have these very long political conversations on the phone that would get pretty heated at times," she says. "You know, he was a part of my life."
Mohammed didn't want to speak directly to Dana. On a scratchy phone line in the Gazan city of Khan Younis, he says he no longer believes that people who are enemies can be just friends.
"I can totally understand him," Dana says. "I think for him it was even more difficult because Palestinians are living in these territories with no electricity and no water. Obviously people are suffering, they're living hand-to-mouth. He is suffering more than I am for sure."
She adds, "It's difficult for him to see me as the Dana that he remembers when we were just 14, and not see me as an Israeli who is causing all this pain to him and his family."
With their communication cut off, Dana has a message for Mohammed. "I just wish him well and I hope his family is doing well and his parents. And his kids — I don't know how many kids he has now! I hope he's doing well, and just to say safe."
Mohammed, meanwhile, now has four sons. He's still an English teacher and, despite his dreams of studying abroad, he's not been able to leave the Gaza Strip because of travel restrictions for Palestinians.
He describes life in Gaza today as a catastrophe.
"People here die for nothing. The army and the soldiers kill people daily down here and they oppose the restrictions on Gaza. They are dying of hunger."
He says whatever his history is with Dana, he can't speak to her anymore. "I must respect my peoples' suffering and be with their feelings."
Since we last spoke with him, there have been multiple deadly confrontations between the Hamas-ruled Gaza Strip and Israel. Mohammed's children have grown up in the shadow of these wars and have suffered as a result.
He says a dermatologist told him contaminated water sources are causing new skin diseases to develop in Gaza region. He's also consulted psychologists about his sons' trauma.
Mohammed's oldest son has had recurring nightmares of a dead body he saw split in two, the result, he says, of an Israeli airstrike. "He was dreaming of blood and dead people and the dead people are moving and they want to take him," he says. Another son regularly wakes up screaming.
Mohammed confesses that he's kept up with Dana discreetly on social media all these years. But social media are also limited in Gaza.
"I become very happy when I see that she's happy and she's fine," he says.
But he can't help but wonder at the fate of their respective children on opposite sides of a conflict that seems like it will never end.
Whenever he thinks of Dana, he can't help but think of the future of her son.
"I'm afraid he will grow up one day and be an Israeli soldier and kill the innocent people here. But I still — I love him. I love him."
He lets out a long sigh.
"It's very complicated."
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